Yellowstone, Pollyanna-style

Remember the Glad Game?

We're going to play the Glad Game today. For everything about our trip that was sad, there was always something to be glad about. And sometimes there were some great things to be glad about without any sadness attached to them.

Ready to play?

We decided to split-up the trip up there. So we stopped at Cheryl's parents' house in Blackfoot, ID on Wednesday night to spend the night. We got there later than planned. As we were pulling up to their house at 11pm.....

Sad: June started crying and then puked all over herself and her carseat and the van seat.

Glad: It was great that we were pulling up to a house (with a washing machine) instead of our campsite. Everything was ready to go by morning.

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Sad: When we were about 15 minutes outside of our campsite in Yellowstone, June puked again.

Glad: This time there wasn't as much and we were able to clean it up quickly with wipes. Also, June was acting totally fine between these incidents and so we chalked it up to car-sickness. Also, we saw a moose on the way in, but didn't get any pics.

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Sad: The realization that it was NOT, in fact, car-sickness came when we were awakened by June puking in bed at 3am the next morning.

Glad: She was still acting totally fine before and after the puking, so at least we weren't dealing with a crabby baby on top of puke. And this was the last bout of puke from June.

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Glad: Some deer strolled into camp as we were getting things set up the first day.

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Glad: We had yummy wraps and then went for a walk by the lake after dinner. The scenery was breath-taking.

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The second day we drove to the mud volcanoes.

Sad: I didn't get to see them since June and Lady were asleep in the van. I stayed with them while everyone else went on a short hike to check them out.

Glad: Brent got some great pics for me to "experience."

The sulfur smell was extremely strong there. :)

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Glad: On the way to the mud volcanoes, we ran into a herd of bison (and yes, they are called bison. I had to look it up since other tourists kept calling them buffalo. I was sure they were bison.....and I was right. ;) ). We actually saw a number of herds while up there. Apparently it's quite rare to see that many.

This one walked across the road behind us as we were leaving.

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Sad: It started to rain.

Glad: Luckily it wasn't raining super hard, so we went and saw a beautiful waterfall from a distance. Then we drove around and made the short but steep hike down to the top of it. It started raining much harder right as we were coming back up to the top.

From a distance:

From the top:
This was AJ taking a pic of us trying to recreate the pic in the header of this blog.

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Sad: Since it was raining, we couldn't go do the other hikes we had planned.

Glad: Luckily there were some indoor places we could go hang out for a while. So we went to the museum and watched a movie about Yellowstone.

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Sad: It was still raining hard once we were done at the museum. So we had a dilemma about what to do for dinner. Do we go back to camp and make dinner in the rain? And what do we do with the kids during that time? Or do we go spend a fortune at a restaurant in Yellowstone and also wait in a huge line because everybody else had the same idea?

Glad: So glad we had awesome husbands who made dinner in the rain (they were mostly covered by the awning on our trailer and a canopy that Brandon and Cheryl brought). Also so glad we had the trailer for the kids to hang out in and watch a movie until bedtime. B & C's kids watched a movie in their van and then braved the cold for a bit outside when the rain let up a little before bed. (My kids were already in their jammies and were quite upset with me that I wouldn't let them out to play with their friends.)

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Sad: After the day of rain and little sleep for 2 nights and a pukey baby, I was almost ready to throw in the towel.

Glad: Brent managed to talk me out of that nonsense and the 3rd day was absolutely beautiful. Sunny skies most of the day and the temperature was much more bearable.

Glad: We saw an elk on the way to Old Faithful. While waiting for more puke from Old Faithful, we went in the gift shop and bought souvenirs. Roo got his first pocket knife, lucky kid.

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Glad: After lunch we went to a beachy spot by the lake and decided to just "dip our toes."

You can guess how long that lasted. It's like that book, "If You Give a Mouse a Cookie".....only it's "If you give my kids some water, they're going to get wet."

Dipping our toes.
Going a little deeper.
Splashing in the "waves."

Deeper still.
I didn't get a picture of it, but AJ ended up going all the way under. She's a fish.
June got her first taste of black sand.....literally.
And Lady made her first sandcastle.

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Sad: It took us longer to get packed up than we thought it would, so we didn't leave camp until 11am.

Glad: But the timing worked out perfectly for us to see a bear on our way out. We were supposed to stay at least 100 yds away, but we got a bit closer than that. I'd say more like 50. It made Brandon quite nervous, but I was banking on the fact that there were other people much closer than us and so they'd be the first targets. :p

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Sad:
- The kids were......"restless" (read: horrible) on the way home. I'm showing a picture of June sleeping as proof that there was at least one moment where she wasn't crying.


- Somewhere in Star Valley, WY Roo said from the backseat, "Mom?" And I turned to see him holding his fingers to his mouth. I yelled at Brent to pull over, to which he responded, "Are you sure? Is he really going to throw up?" To which I yelled louder, "PULL OVER!" We got him out just in the nick of time. I was probably a little too forceful when grabbing his shirt and yanking him out of the van, but luckily he's very forgiving and was grateful (along with Brent and me) that most of the puke ended up on the side of the highway.

- Upon returning home at 9:40pm , all 5 kids had fallen asleep about 10 minutes prior. After helping Lady out of the van, she looks at me and happily says, "Momma, I not frow up!" And promptly threw up on the driveway.

Glad: Uh.....we were glad to be home and glad that more puke didn't end up in the van.

Oh, and one more thing to be glad about......
After discussing with Brent WHY our kids had been so "restless" on the way home, we realized it was most likely because we'd brought a bunch of sugary snacks in the car thinking it would be a special treat for them since they don't get them often. In hindsight, that was a very stupid thing to do. Lesson learned.
On another "glad" note, about halfway through the trip, the kids were telling me they were hungry, so I offered them more "treats." They all responded that they wanted "real" food, so we stopped and got in the trailer and retrieved "real" food for them: apples, oranges, bananas, and whole wheat bread and bagels. Turns out my kids are more sensible than me.

Summertime

I have an upcoming post in my head. And I have many pictures on my camera. The issue is getting it here on the computer. See, I have no time. How is that possible, I ask you?! I looked forward to the summertime so that I would have FREE TIME! And yet it has escaped me. The time I thought would be plentiful without school lessons every day has been taken up by......other things......other people......other commitments. (I should note that I have enjoyed all of these "others" immensely.)

I am so glad that August is here. July was beautiful. I had some of the greatest times and made some of the best memories during July. But I didn't ever have a minute to sit and catch my breath, it seems. Between 3 family reunions, 2 families visiting us, 1 work party at our house (the day after returning from a reunion), and getting some more fun boxes checked off our "home improvement" list, this has been one busy month. I loved nearly every minute of it, but it was definitely tiring.

So now we're going on vacation. And as all you mothers out there know, "vacation" doesn't really mean "vacation" when you're packing your whole family up for a camping trip. But after this past month, I think it might just actually somewhat resemble a vacation for me.

Yellowstone, here we come!

Hopefully I'll have some great pics of bears and bison for you when we get back.

Hopefully they will look nothing like this.

And hopefully I can get around to posting at least a few pics from this last month before we leave.

Going Green

UPDATE AT THE BOTTOM!!!


I'm going to do my best to keep this post friendly, informative, and devoid of politics for all of my readers that don't like the controversy that I keep getting into. :)

Over the last few years, I've tried to lessen the amount of garbage we go through, the chemicals that come in contact with my children and in my house, and basically just reduce our carbon footprint. Some of this I've done because it's best for the environment, some of it because it's just plain cheaper, and some of it I've done because I believe it's what's best for the health of my family.

Here are some of the things we do:

Laundry

- I switched to a more natural detergent without brighteners, enzymes, yucky chemicals, and perfumes. I originally got it for my cloth diapers because regular detergents aren't good for them. But now I use it for everything. I got it in bulk (4 boxes) on Amazon.com about 2 years ago for $50 and we're still working on our 2nd box. Country Save is what I use, but I've heard good things about Charlie's and Allen's Naturally, also. If you make the switch and feel like you need a softener, try vinegar in the rinse cycle.

- We have a front-load energy-efficient washer, which is one of the reasons we don't go through much detergent.

- I hang dry my cloth diapers most of the time. I use the dryer for them a little more often in the winter since they take a lot longer to dry then. But in the summer time, it's a breeze (literally) to hang them up outside. They dry so fast that way! Brent and I have talked about putting up a clothesline outside for our clothes too. Maybe that will happen this summer!

- I no longer use fabric softener or dryer sheets. Like I said above, instead of fabric softener, try a bit of vinegar. And I use dryer balls instead of chemical-filled dryer sheets. This is also good for cloth diapers if I do put them in the dryer since residue is left on the dryer from the dryer sheets that make the cloth diapers repel water (which obviously isn't what you want when it comes to cloth diapers).

Personal Hygiene

- First we got rid of antibacterial soaps in our house. There are numerous articles showing that there really aren't benefits to using antibacterial soaps in a home setting. Hospital settings, maybe beneficial. But their overuse is causing all sorts of problems and has the potential of causing many more, some foreseeable, some not.

- I got a bunch of the "foaming" soap dispensers since they save on the amount of soap used. And I make my own mixture to go in them. I bought a big refill container of regular handsoap (gel, non-antibacterial) and I mix a 2:1 ratio of water to soap in the foaming dispensers. Makes one of those refill containers last a LONG time! I think sometimes people forget that the most important aspect to hand washing is vigorous, prolonged (20-30 seconds) scrubbing. The soap is just there to aid in getting the dirt off easier, but the scrubbing is what gets the germs off.

- Shampoo and Conditioner:
This is one I've been playing around with for a while. I've always had greasy hair and had to shampoo everyday. I often wondered how pioneer women went a week or more at a time without washing their hair. I figured I would've just been the ugly, greasy lady nobody would want to date. :) But then I started looking into it more and found out about people going shampoo-less. Meaning they never washed their hair. How is that possible? So I started digging deeper. And I found that there are varying degrees of it and different things work for different people and different hair types. I've known for a while that using shampoo only worsens the amount of grease in my hair because it strips all of the natural oils each day, but I didn't know what to do about it.

Over the last couple of years I have come to learn that baking soda is one of God's gifts to us. It has SOOOO many uses. One of them is being an alternative to shampoo. Vinegar is another awesome thing. And apple cider vinegar works great as an alternative to conditioner. Who knew?

Here are a couple of great sites about it:
http://www.naturemoms.com/no-shampoo-alternative.html
http://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-Go-No-Poo/
http://ezinearticles.com/?No-Shampoo---How-to-Go-No-Poo-Successfully&id=3803613
http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/curl-products/all-about-the-no-poo-routine-2

I haven't gone to strictly baking soda and ACV yet, but that's my goal....and who knows? Maybe if I keep going, I can be like the pioneer women and wash my hair with just water once a week or so. Wouldn't that be amazing? At the moment, I'm using a shampoo and conditioner that don't have as many of the harsh, abrasive, toxic, stripping chemicals in them. It's the Tresemme Naturals line. I've heard that the Suave Naturals line is also pretty good at leaving the harsher chemicals out (plus it's super cheap).

I haven't switched out my soap yet. Waiting to finish out the box we got from Costco. But again, really all that's needed to get clean is warm water and scrubbing. And soap is SOOO drying for the skin. So the only places I use soap now is in my armpits and "down there." The rest of my body gets clean just by being in the water and any shampoo running down. :)

For the kids, I used to use shampoo and conditioner on them every single time they took a bath (2-4 times a week, depending on the season). I no longer do. I let their natural oils keep their hair and scalp healthy. For AJ, I use the same shampoo and conditioner as I use, but we only use a little bit. Just a squeeze about the size of a dime of shampoo for the top of her head. I don't shampoo the ends....too drying. Then a squeeze about the size of a quarter of conditioner for the ends of her hair only. (I wash my hair this same way.) For Roo, he has such little hair now that he uses just a small amount of shampoo. For the little girls, I don't use shampoo at all. But I use a bit of conditioner on the ends just to make it easier to comb out. And for soap, we only have them soap up in their armpits and the parts under their underwear. :) (That is, unless Lady's gotten into the markers again and then we'll use it wherever she's created art on herself.)

Here is a great website that has all of the ingredient info for so many of the products we buy. It rates them on a scale of 0-10, with 0 being the least toxic and 10 being the most. It also breaks it down so that you know which ingredients are the toxic culprits. (The new Tresemme Naturals line isn't on there yet, but a lot of the Suave Naturals are.) I've used this site now a number of times in looking for deodorant, shampoo/conditioner, lotion, make-up, sunscreen, etc. It's awesome! Right now I'm researching toothpastes to make a switch in that department too.

- Speaking of deodorant, I've made the switch to a less toxic deodorant. The aluminum in regular antiperspirants is really not good for us and is absorbed into our skin when we apply it. I switched to Tom's of Maine. It's just a deodorant (not antiperspirant), but I've found that it doesn't last all day. So if I want to still smell good for Brent when he comes home from work, I need to apply it twice during the day. I've just ordered Ban invisible solid online (it's on its way to us now!) for both Brent and myself. It got good reviews on Amazon, so I'm hoping it works a bit better for me. I'll have to let you know once we get it. :)

- Now we'll be getting into the "strictly feminine" aspects of personal hygiene. :)

A few years ago, I heard about an alternative to pads and tampons. After years of using tampons I made the switch and I haven't looked back since. I never really was comfortable with the thought of tampons being inside of me in such a "personal" area for a week out of every month, but the thought of using pads instead was just too......icky. (Plus they still have awful chemicals as well.) I hated the 6 weeks postpartum when I HAD to wear pads......Babies are the ones who usually get diaper rash, but it was Mama that did when it came to me and pads. So uncomfortable!

So let me introduce you to my new best friend...... the Diva Cup. Pure bliss. There's a bit of a learning curve (no worse than learning to use tampons), and it comes with a "stem" at the bottom that I snipped off for comfort's sake, but once you get it down it's AWESOME! No trying to remember to keep tampons everywhere under the sun (purse, glove compartment, diaper bag, every drawer in every bathroom, etc.). No more chemicals in your "personal space" all week. No more diaper rash from yucky pads. It's a beautiful thing.

And for those of you who still prefer pads, I have an alternative as well......Mama Cloth. Now most of you might react with "ICK!" But let me tell you, either way you're dealing with an "ick" factor. This "time of the month" that we deal with is just icky any way you look at it. So there's a choice to be made whether we deal with the "ick" factor of nasty chemicals making their way into our most private of areas or whether we deal with the "ick" factor of touching something somewhat unpleasant for a few moments, but we're then able to wash it right off of our hands. I have a friend that I adore who once said, "There's not anything that the human body can produce that CAN'T be washed off." So true. And for those of you who enjoy supporting work-at-home-moms, you're probably familiar with Etsy. It's my new favorite place to shop. There are plenty of women there who can make the perfect Mama Cloth for you! My friends who use Mama Cloth just keep a small trash can (with a lid) in their bathroom just for these and a small wetbag in their purse for when they're out and about. Then they toss them in the washer and wash on hot and they're good to go.

These things may seem expensive up-front (kind of like cloth diapers), but they are SO MUCH CHEAPER in the long run. You can find Diva Cups on sale for between $15-$20. That's probably about 1-2 months worth of tampons for me. And the Diva Cup will last so much longer! Same with the Mama Cloth. A bigger expense in the beginning, but it won't take too many months to pay them off! And if you happen to sew, then it can be even cheaper! Just make your own! There are plenty of sites with tutorials and patterns.

- Along the same lines as Mama Cloth is, of course, cloth diapers. I know lots of women who just toss their Mama Cloth in with their diapers at the end of the day. Cloth diapering has been one of my favorite switches that we've made. The cloth wipes we use (you know, those super-cheap baby washcloths you can buy like 12 for $3 at Walmart) really come in handy too. But I already did a whole post about that, so I won't repeat myself here.

-I feel like I should also mention one thing for those of you who may want to take this type of thing and run with it. It's not something that we've done at our house, but I'll never say never. It is reusable toilet paper. Enough said.

Cleaning Products

A couple of years ago when I started wanting the kids to help with the cleaning more, I realized I really didn't like the idea of them spraying and coming in contact with all of the chemicals in the cleaners I'd always used. So I, again, researched alternatives. There are some good options you can buy at the store. But I found the best alternative for us.

- Baking soda and vinegar. My kids could eat the cleaner and they'd be fine! (Not that they'd want to....yuck!)

We use these 2 things for pretty much all of our cleaning now. (My friend, Jen, did a similar post today about cleaning supplies. She has some great ideas as well and I love all of her reusable stuff. But I wanted to correct one thing..... Vinegar IS a disinfectant because of the acetic acid in it.)

Each bathroom is equipped with a spray bottle of 1 part vinegar, 2 parts water. There are 2 washcloths also. One for the toilets, one for the sinks/counters/tub. (Using the same one for everything gives me the heebie-jeebies.) The vinegar/water also works great on the mirrors. Also in each cabinet is a tall tupperware container of baking soda. This is for the toilets, tubs, and any hard-to-scrub spots on the counters/sinks. The kids just open the container and shake a bit into the toilet and the tub and then scrub away! Works great!

You can also find a spray bottle and container of baking soda under my kitchen sink. It's all I use in the kitchen now as well. I also use vinegar and water to mop my floors. It's always done a great job! This is currently the mop I use, but I'm thinking about getting one like this instead. I don't like having to wrap the elastic edges over my current mop every time I rinse it out and I think I'd like to have the microfiber pads instead of cotton.

Costco has 2 big jugs of vinegar for like $3 or something like that.....SO CHEAP! And they also have a big bag of baking soda....can't remember how much it is, but I'm pretty sure it's less than $5. Again....SO CHEAP!

We used to use so many throw-away products.... Lysol/Clorox disinfecting wipes, Swiffer dust cloths, Swiffer wet cloths, dryer sheets, I can't even count the number of different cleaners I had all over the house (Bleach, detergent, fabric softener, toilet cleaner, Windex, a bathroom spray, a kitchen spray.) All of that has been tossed out now, and I'm all about reusable stuff.

Want to know my new favorite cleaning secret? Microfiber towels. Really, they have a million different uses. I bought a big package of them from Costco when I first started cloth diapering. I planned on using them as inserts for my pocket diapers, but I found other inserts I liked better. Now I use the microfiber towels every day for other things.

They make the perfect duster. There's one in each of the kids' rooms for dusting each week. I rotate them about once a month.

They're super-absorbent, so I use them all the time in the kitchen. I keep a bottom drawer full of them and just pull one out whenever I need it. I use them almost exclusively instead of paper towels now in the kitchen. If there's a spill, the microfiber towels will get it up twice as fast.

I keep one on the counter for when I'm cutting up veggies and constantly washing them off and needing to dry my hands off. I use them for wiping up my children. I use at least 2-3 a day. And the best part is, you just toss them in the washer along with the regular kitchen towels and rags, and use them again and again! In fact, we just bought another huge pack from Costco. I can't seem to find them online to post a link, but they're in the automotive section at the store. Ours are bright yellow.

- I'm currently searching for some cloth napkins. I'll probably order those from Etsy as well.

Misc. Going Green Stuff
I know that there are a lot of things we could be doing, but aren't. Here are some more miscellaneous things we do along with some things we WANT to do, but aren't doing yet.

- We try to limit our sprinkler use. We turn them on in the evenings or early morning. And we just switched out some of the sprinkler heads to more efficient ones (instead of spraying, they have tubes you hook on that go to specific spots like bushes and plants).

- We use the energy-efficient lightbulbs. And I like them just fine, but they scare me a bit because if you break them, you practically have to call a HazMat team to clean it up.

- We use rechargeable batteries where we can.

- We have ceiling fans in all the bedrooms (except Tink's and Lady's room...still trying to figure that one out) to cut down on a/c use.

- We recycle. Our recycle bin is usually more full than our garbage bin.

- We use glass tupperware instead of plastic and we don't microwave on/in plastic containers.

- We just put down cork flooring which is a sustainable resource (quicker recovery than wood).

- We try to take quick showers/baths.

- We teach the kids to turn off the lights when they leave a room (this one is still a work in progress).

- Brent built 2 garden boxes this year. :)
We have yet to plant anything in them, but that's the ultimate goal! We're considering getting 1 or 2 of these. (They're $99 each at Costco right now.) But we'll probably only get them if we get a garden in.

- If we don't do a garden ourselves this year, our stake does a "Community Garden" with some land that the church owns next to our building. We can participate in that by helping plant and weed and reap the rewards when it's time to harvest!

- We buy local produce when we can. There's a small produce stand (owned by a family in our ward) just outside of our subdivision and another larger produce stand just up the street. I buy as much as I can from them throughout the summer.

- Eating vegetarian/vegan is considered green since we're not supporting the meat/dairy industry and farms.

- We have energy-efficient appliances.

- We just had a company come fill our attic with a whole lot more insulation than was currently up there. Right now there are some rebate incentives going on, so it really didn't cost all that much when all was said and done.

- We try not to drive too much. (Or maybe this has less to do with being green and more to do with the fact that I have 5 kids to haul around with me everywhere I go and therefore really try to condense my errands to as few as possible and try to be as efficient as possible with them.) ;)

- We've gone to paper-less billing for most of our bills. There are still some companies that are apparently behind the times and not offering this yet. But with those that do, I LOVE online payments.....so quick and easy and they help my stamps last a LOT longer!

- I'm currently looking into dishwasher detergent and toothpaste alternatives. So if you already know of some, let me know!


There are probably a few things I'm not thinking of and even more that I haven't even thought of doing. So give me your ideas. What things do you like to do to be more green, natural, or cheap?
I can edit them in at the bottom of the post as you comment. :)

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EDITED TO ADD:

Be forewarned that Etsy is a dangerous place. I found some cloth napkins I want and in doing so, found more things I want. These are great! (There are all sorts on there!) I bought some cloth bags from Harmon's that I love, but I need to be better at remembering to take them in the store with me. :)

There are also these and these. For those of you who send your kids to school with lunch, there are a LOT of reusable sandwich baggies and lunch bags/boxes.

I also found these and I really want some for the bread Brent makes each week. The woman who makes them has a blog that has inspired me a bit. Going plastic-free (as much as possible). Intriguing. I'll have to think on that a bit. We've already done quite a bit of that already, but she showed me even more ways I can be better.

Seeing stuff like this makes me realize I should just learn how to sew better. But the reality is that I have about 10 sewing projects that are needing to be worked on (and have been in need for longer than I care to share.....THAT'S how embarrassing it is). So the reality is that it might be worth my money to let someone else sew these things for me. Thank goodness for talented women!

****My awesome dental hygienist sister-in-law answered my request for a new toothpaste! She emailed me this response:

"Fun post Ann!! As far as a tooth paste goes. . .try your tried and true BAKING SODA!! Seriously, it works great! Technically, you don't really need a tooth paste to remove plaque from your teeth. . .water would be just fine as well. All the stuff they put in toothpaste is just for marketing anyway. The key to tooth brushing is at least 2 min of gentle brushing (not hard, fast scrubbing. . . leave that for the hands)"

See? Baking soda rocks! (Along with vinegar!)

Baby Boys

Right up front I will tell you that this is a post about circumcision. My views about circumcision have changed over the last number of years and my opinions have become stronger. This blog is going to be full of facts AND my opinions and I will use the correct terms for parts of the body (and maybe some incorrect terms, just because).

Just putting that out there. :)

If you are pro-circumcision and don't want your ideas challenged, then please read no further.

A little over 7 years ago, my first (and only, so far) son was born. It was a traumatic experience for many reasons. But the experience I'm left with the most "mommy-guilt" over is having him circumcised. And the only thing I can do is plead ignorance. I just didn't know any better and felt like that was a decision for the dad to make. And since Brent is circumcised, he felt that Roo should be. Oh, how I wish I could go back to that day and do it over again. Why? Because my mommy-gut (aka mother's intuition, aka the Spirit) was telling me "Don't let them do this." And I didn't follow it. Now, having learned what I've learned about this practice, I understand what my mommy-gut was trying to tell me.

Here is what I believe about circumcision now: At its very BEST it's unnecessary cosmetic surgery. At its very WORST it's male genital mutilation.

Let's look at reasons for keeping a baby boy whole at birth.

1. I don't believe God made a mistake when it comes to all male beings. All males are born with foreskin. Therefore it must serve a purpose. Men were created in the image of God, right? It would seem logical that that would include genitalia.

2. Birth, in and of itself, is a traumatic, tiring, new, sensational experience for a tiny little being to go through. Why should we top it all off by strapping him down and cutting him apart?

3. There are still a huge number of doctors who perform this surgery without the use of anesthetic. I should probably leave my opinion that those-doctors-should-be-strung-up-by-their-toes-and-left-for-the-vultures out of this, but there it is.

4. No experimental anesthetic has been found to be safe and effective in preventing circumcision pain. Research in this area continues and meanwhile, all these baby boys are basically guinea pigs.

5. The foreskin is FULL of nerve endings. It's one of the most sensitive areas on a male. Tell me again why we want to cut it off?

6. The foreskin DOES have a purpose (a few of them, actually). You can read about it here. And here's an article with just about every piece of information you could ever want to know about foreskin. It's not just some useless piece of skin. Suffice it to say that there are practical and sexual purposes.

7. It's elective surgery. ELECTIVE. SURGERY. What elective surgery might it be ok to put all baby girls through? Surgery is a serious thing. Things go wrong. Circumcisions get botched. Children DIE from this. Rare, yes, but still a risk. Foreskins are not a deformity in need of cosmetic repair.

8. The AAP does not recommend routine infant circumcision (RIC).

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Now let's look at some of the most often-used excuses people have for doing it.

1. First, my initial reasoning: "The dad should be the one to decide."
Why? Just because he has a penis? So I get to do whatever I want to my girls' vaginas without getting Brent's consent or input? What if I want to pierce their nether-regions? I'm fairly sure Brent would have an opinion about that, but since his nether-regions differ from his daughters' then he doesn't get a say? Somehow I'm thinking this wouldn't go over very well.

Yes, the dads have the same parts as their sons. Yes, they have experience in the men's locker room. Yes, they "get it" more than we moms ever will. But that doesn't mean mothers shouldn't get a say in what happens. It doesn't mean mothers' opinions on the matter count less.

2. "I want him to look like his dad."

First of all, I'd like a raise of hands from all of the men who've compared private parts with their dads. I'm guessing the last time most men did was when they were between the ages of 3 and 8, which is a time when there are a heck of a lot more differences "down there" than foreskin or lack of foreskin. If we want our sons to look like their fathers, should we also glue some hair on? Because that's usually the first thing my kids notice.

And if this is the argument, then should we also give our daughters breast implants? Because my girls have all noticed the difference there.

3. "He'll get made fun of in the locker room if he's intact."
Luckily leaving boys intact is a rising trend. There are different estimates out there, but in a lot of states the ratio is 50/50. (Unfortunately it's probably not that high in my state {insert eye-rolling}.)

Here are my counter-arguments for this one:

I think most boys are going to be able to think of a pretty good comeback for the first boy to start making fun of his parts. Why on earth is any boy checking out the packages on his classmates?

Also, I think if you teach your intact son about the differences up-front and let him know how lucky he is to still have his foreskin, he'll probably be able to handle a little teasing and even turn it back around on the teasers.

And again, let's compare this to girls. I was what you might call a "slow-grower" when it came to my boobs. While I was inches taller than most girls my age, my chest was sadly-lacking when most other girls had something worthy of wearing a bra for. I think I finally convinced my mother to give me a bra in the 7th or 8th grade since I was in PE, even though I technically didn't need it yet. She gave me my sister's old bra. The problem with that was when my sister started wearing a bra, she had a reason to. Since my reason was not visible, it meant I had to make the choice between Kleenex and Wrinkle-Chest. I opted for Kleenex. So if anybody knows anything about locker-room embarrassment, I think I've got a pretty good handle on it.

So now bringing this back around to my daughters. If they take after me, they will probably go through some tough times in the "boob-lacking department." Does this mean I should give them implants to save them from some *possible* embarrassment? Or should I speak with them openly and honestly and often about how each person's body develops on a different time-line and that getting boobs at the age of 8 isn't necessarily a good thing?

4. "It's cleaner to be circumcised."

There is nothing about foreskin that is inherently dirty. All little boys need to be taught good hygiene. And they'll all probably go through phases where their hygiene may be a little lacking, according to their mothers. But that's what makes them boys, right? This is simply a matter of teaching children how to care for their bodies. And taking care of an intact penis is no harder than taking care of a circumcised penis. In fact, at first it's easier since you shouldn't retract the foreskin on an intact baby boy. You wash it like you would a finger.

5. "They're more likely to get UTIs (urinary tract infections) when left intact."
This is actually partially false. There is a higher probability of boys under the age of 1 getting UTIs (circumcised and intact boys, but with intact boys being at a higher risk) over girls, but by the age of 5, UTIs are 50 times more common in girls than in boys. And by adulthood, UTIs are 30 times more common among women than men.

So if you really look at it, maybe it's the girls we should be taking the knife to if we're so concerned about UTIs. Oh wait, that's against the law. So why is it allowed for little boys?

The UTI argument, to me, is akin to saying, "My child might possibly get hang nails in the future. We should pull out his/her fingernails and toenails just to lessen the chance." Or "Our family has a history of bad teeth. We should just pull our kids' teeth as soon as they come in and just give them dentures now."

6. "Intact penises are ugly." (Yes, I've heard people give this reasoning.)

First of all, beauty is ALWAYS in the eye of the beholder. Second of all, I don't think male or female genitalia are particularly pleasant-looking, so why is it ok to perform cosmetic surgery on one and not the other? If it's just to make them prettier to look at, shouldn't we be giving equal treatment to our girls?

7. "God commanded it in the Bible."
God commanded a lot of things in the Bible that He hasn't commanded in latter days. He also only commanded circumcision for a few different groups of people, not everybody. But the most important thing to know about this is that Biblical circumcision looked nothing like today's circumcision. They took off MUCH less skin. They basically cut off the very tip, not the entire foreskin like is done today. Here's a good article about why Biblical circumcision has nothing to do with the practice of it today. And here are some references in Mormon scripture about circumcision.

8. "I know a guy who had to have a circumcision when he was older (a teen, adult, etc.) and it was HORRIBLE!!!"

This one just defies logic, to me. Why would it be any less horrible for an infant? (I would argue that it's worse for the infant.) Most people use the excuse that it's better because they won't remember it. Like that somehow means it doesn't affect them. It has been well-documented that the newborn's behavior changes following circumcision. I know it did with my son. They are more irritable, more fussy, are harder to console. It causes problems with breastfeeding quite often. And it has an effect on the mother-baby bond.

When anyone other than an infant goes in for a circumcision, they are put under general anesthesia. This is thought to be too risky for an infant, so they aren't given this privilege. When anyone other than an infant goes home from a circumcision, they are given pain meds and ointments and smelling salts to ward off erections to try to ease their pain as much as possible. Why aren't infants given these same things? We take them home and are told to put vaseline on their diapers so that their wounds won't stick. That's about it. When will we stop treating babies as sub par humans? Just because they can't vocalize their pain and agony, like someone older can, doesn't make it any less real.

The truth is that there is rarely a true medical need for a circumcision. Doctors (especially urologists) are quick to jump on the "he needs a circumcision" bandwagon when there are usually other ways of dealing with any issues. Only 1 in every 100 intact men ever has any sort of medical problem regarding their foreskin. And a huge percentage of those still will never need surgery to correct it. So why circumcise the other 99?

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If we have more sons, they will be left whole at birth. I believe (now) that a child has the right to decide for themselves what should be done with such a personal piece of their body. Some may then question, "Well, how are you going to explain to your boys about the fact that they're different?" The simple answer to that is: we'll talk to them. Really, we're quite open parents about all of this stuff, and I already plan on explaining to Roo why I would choose a different path now than I did then, even if we don't have another boy. And I hope that he will take that information with him when he goes on to have children of his own and will end this cycle. The other thing is, just because they're brothers, it doesn't mean they'd have identical penises anyway. I've seen brothers who are quite different in that department. How do their parents explain it? Or is it even something that gets brought up? Who knows? I don't have 2 boys. What I do know is that I won't put another child through cosmetic surgery so that he'll match his older brother, just like I wouldn't scar any of my children just to match their siblings' scars.


For anyone looking for more information, I've got some links. If you think you are leaning toward not having any future sons circumcised, but not sure if you can get your husband on-board, check out this link.

Here's a link with Frequently Asked Questions about circumcision.

This website is full of lots of great information about circumcision, its history, etc.

Circumcision Resource Center

http://www.nocirc.org/

If you think I'm brazen in my words and opinions, here's a lady who's even more outspoken than I. She takes the boy/girl comparisons one step further.

http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/

http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org/


My goal in writing this post is to hopefully have parents think twice about circumcision, do some in-depth research about it, and pray hard before making this permanent decision for their little boys.

Keeping Me Humble

My kids are very good at keeping me humble. They're the first to tell me how great I am, but they're also the first to point out my weaknesses. And they somehow manage to do it in a completely innocent, non-judging sort of way, leaving me unable to feel resentment toward them like I might with other people pointing out my inadequacies.

For example, I've been feeling pretty good about myself physically lately. Brent and I have been exercising regularly, we've been trying to eat healthier, and our bodies are starting to show us the results. It feels good. So to bring me back to reality, here are a couple of conversations I've had lately with the littles.

Tink (while watching me do my make-up): Mom, what's that?

Me: A zit.

Tink (with a look of disgust-mixed-with-curiosity-mixed-with-horror on her face as her finger slowly makes its way up to my face. She almost touches it, but then pulls her hand back as if it might be contagious): Why is it so big and red?

Me: Because it was a big zit under the skin that hurt really bad so I tried to pop it too early and instead created a crater on my face.

Tink: Oh. Why do you have so many zits?

Me: Because I don't have a baby in my tummy. (One of my favorite things about being pregnant is the way my skin clears up. Post-partem, it all goes down the tubes again.)

I'm sure I completely confused the poor girl as to how a baby in my tummy could have anything to do with red dots on my face.

After this part of the conversation, I was feeling very paranoid about my crater-zit, so I tried to cover it up with a little cover-up concealer stick, which I NEVER use since putting anything on my skin usually just causes the break-outs to get worse.

Tink: What's that stuff?

Me: Stuff to try to cover up the zit and make it look less red.

Tink (after watching my pathetic attempts): It's not working, Mommy.

Me: I know. :(

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Tink (while watching me pluck my eyebrows): What are all those black dots on your face? (Around my eyebrows.)

Me: Hairs.

Tink: Why are they all around your eyebrows? That's not where they're supposed to grow.

Me: I know. Because life's unfair.


See? Keeping me humble. And to be fair to Tink, when I was all done with my make-up, she stood back to take a good look at me and said, "Mommy, you wook bootiful." Thanks, Tink. That almost makes up for the plummet in my self-esteem.

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Another day, the girls were all playing with my hair. Roo decided to join in. (I LOVE it when they brush and play with my hair. It's one of my favorite things. I get into a zen-like trance and can't think straight.)

Roo: Mom, your hair is getting long!

Me: I know! Isn't it exciting?

Roo: Yeah, but I can see some hairs in here that aren't the same.

Me: I know, Roo.

Roo: They're white, Mom.

Me (losing my zen): I know, Roo.

Roo: There's a lot of them, Mom.

Me (zen flies out the window) : I know, Roo. Let's all play the Quiet-Game while we brush Mommy's hair now!



I have now decided that when I create my own worlds, there will be a law-of-nature that says that a person can't have zits and white hairs at the same time. And if she's 30 years old, she can't have either of them. Yeah, that's a good law.

All About June

Oh how I love babies. Especially MY babies! :)

June is growing like a weed. She gets cuter by the minute. Here are some fun facts about June at 10 months old.

1. She loves food. Pretty much any food. She has 8 teeth now and is putting them to good use. Sometimes I wonder if she loves the experience of eating even more than the different tastes and textures. This was after giving her some avacado. The rest of the day, AJ referred to her as the Avacado Alien.
2. She's fat. Seriously fat. My mom thinks she's the fattest of my babies so far. She might be right. :)

Do you see the boobs? Beautiful.
(Also, for those of you wondering, her necklace is made of amber. It's a teething necklace, but not for chewing on. Amber has natural analgesic qualities which are released into her skin and help soothe her when she's teething. You can read more about them here. That's where I got June's. :) )

3. She can't crawl yet. She scoots backward on her tummy and on her back, but has yet to figure out getting up on her hands and knees and moving forward....which is alright with Brent and me. We blame it on her fat. After all, that is a big load to hold up.

4. She's one of the happiest babies I've ever encountered. Unless there's something really wrong, she can usually be found smiling.

5. She has recently discovered her voice. And since she has 4 other siblings to compete with, she has quickly figured out the need for volume. High-pitched volume. Dinner time seems to be a favorite time of hers to tell us all what she thinks, resulting in a headache for Brent and (loud) laughter from the kids. (Apparently I'm fairly used to the volume in this house, being in it all day, and occasionally contributing to it, so I have developed a headache immunity.)

6. She's starting to sign back to us now and so far her favorite is "more."

7. She's hasn't been naked for long periods of time over the winter since it was so cold, so I just recently discovered a new depth to her chub. I give you....... the roll above the knee (you can also see her cankle well in this pic):

8. With her new-found love of being naked, she's started taking pleasure in her own chub. She may love playing with her rolls as much as her mama does. :)
9. When she gets excited, she rolls and twists her ankles and her wrists, shakes her arms up and down, and makes this face:
10. She loves all of her fans....I mean siblings. All of them. Her biggest fan is her 2yo sister, Lady. Remember that doll from the 80's.....Kid Sister? Well, that song is quite appropriate for the way Lady feels about June.

(June was starting to get upset in this pic, so Lady brought her a blanket. That's her solution for everything since Lady loves her blanket (the one on the left) so much.)

(This is the face you get when you tell Lady to "say cheese." I love it.)

And one more for good measure:

11. She has 2 conflicting cowlicks at the back of her head, so she often looks like Alfalfa, although I couldn't find a good picture showing off her turkey-tail, so you'll just have to imagine the cuteness.

I'm NOT Brave

And once again, somebody else says it better than I can.


I know I'm not the most gifted writer. I sometimes border on worrying more about my punctuation, spelling, and grammar than about what I'm actually saying. My homebirth post was healing and therapeutic for me to write, but obviously charged with many emotions and didn't really come across the way I intended. So someone else (once again) wrote out my thoughts better than I did. This woman gives all the reasons, without the emotional charge behind them, of why homebirth has nothing to do with bravery and everything to do with safety.

I'm sure this won't be the last time I write about homebirth, but hopefully it'll be the last time for a while. I have many other topics I want to write about, including one very cute baby, in a post to come soon. :)