Cloth Diapers

A while back I did a post happy to be back in the business of cloth diapering again. Someone asked me to do a follow-up post about cloth diapers, so here it is. :) Sorry it took so long.

I need to start out by saying that today's cloth diapers are nothing like your momma's cloth diapers. (Well, actually you can still get cloth diapers that ARE exactly like the ones your momma used....but why would you want to do that?)

Cloth diapers these days run the gamut from super-simple to "I need a degree in rocket science to figure this thing out." Me, I like to stay with the simple stuff.

I'm not going to go into every type of cloth diaper, but I will tell what I've used and what's worked for us.

There are pocket diapers like these.

They come with an insert, and you can buy separate inserts if you like different kinds. (Like these.)
We've got a number of these types of diapers. They have a waterproof outer layer and an inner layer that helps the baby feel dry. You put the inserts into the the diaper and that's what holds all the pee. Once it's stuffed, it goes on just like a disposable diaper. These diapers come in some really cute prints and colors. I really liked them at first, but then came to the realization (after a lot of trial and error trying to figure it out) that Lady is allergic to the fleece liner (the "stay-dry" part). So I stopped using them on her. I've just started trying them out on June and it looks as though she may have the same problem. My kids are known to have extra-sensitive skin, though. I know a lot of babies that don't have an issue at all with these diapers. You can get these in a one-size-fits-all or you can get them in the different sizes.

Another kind is the "dad-friendly" cloth diaper. The All-in-One diaper (AIO). This is similar to the pocket diaper except the absorbent layer (the insert) has already been sewn in between the outer and inner layers. This kind is the most disposable-like diaper there is. They can be a bit trickier to get clean since you can't separate the layers. So some people have a problem with them getting stinky. I've never had a problem with ours, but I don't use them that much. Mostly just for church or if I know somebody else will be changing my child. They now make them with a pocket also so that you can add absorbency if needed.
Here's an example of an AIO:

The kind we use the most is just prefolds with a cover. Prefolds are the "workhorses" of cloth diapers. Here is an example of prefolds:
There are a few different ways to use these. You can pin them on like our parents used to do. You can "snappi" them on using a snappi:
Like this:
These need a cover over them to make them waterproof. And since I don't want to bother with pins or snappis, I just fold them in thirds and lay them in the cover and put the cover on like a disposable diaper. SOOO easy!

I do leave the back part of the diaper open (instead of folding it) on June to better catch her breastmilk poops. And I haven't had to deal with a blow-out yet using cloth diapers and I've got a bunch of stained onesies to prove I dealt with them daily when using disposable diapers.

My favorite covers are Bummis Super Whisper Wraps. By the way, prefolds and covers are also the least expensive way to go when cloth diapering. :)

I would highly recommend getting a diaper sprayer and hooking it up to your toilet. It's certainly not necessary, but I found it makes my job a LOT easier. You can get one like this, or you can just buy a kitchen faucet sprayer attachment at Home Depot and hook it up to your toilet line. (That's what we did.)

For a diaper pail, I bought a garbage can with a pop-up lid from Target similar to this. And I bought a couple of diaper pail liners like this to rotate. And I bought a couple of wetbags for when we're out and about.

The up-front cost of cloth diapering may seem like a lot, but you'll definitely save money in the long-run.

The reasons I cloth diaper are:

1) My baby's bum is cute now! :)
2) My baby isn't being exposed to yucky chemicals 24/7 anymore. (Did you know that the same chemicals that are in tampons and cause Toxic Shock Syndrome are also in disposable diapers?)
3) I'm not sending hundreds and hundreds of nasty plastic diapers to the dump every year anymore.
4) I'm not spending hundreds of dollars on disposable diapers anymore.
5)It's fun. I know that sounds crazy, but I really do enjoy cloth diapering.

There are some things to know before starting to cloth diaper. You have to change cloth diapers more often than disposable since they're not filled w/chemicals. Once they're wet, they're wet. I don't find it to be that much more frequent, maybe a couple of extra diaper changes a day. No biggie.
You'll obviously be doing a bit more laundry. Cloth diapers add about 3 loads of laundry a week for me. I wash every other day. After the kids go to bed, I throw the bag of dirty diapers in the washer and run it through a rinse cycle. Then I wash on hot and add an extra rinse. Then I pull them out before bed and hang them to dry. You can definitely machine dry them, but I choose not to so that they last even longer. You can't use certain detergents with them (whiteners and brighteners make them less absorbent). And you can't use fabric softener with them. It also makes them lose absorbency. About once every 3-4 months I put a little bit of bleach in when I wash them, just for good measure.

All pictures thanks to bumgenius and www.greenmountaindiapers.com

Should your child be in a booster?

I'm going to start out easy.....there's nothing too controversial about carseats, right?

Oh, how I wish that were true......


(Besides, I've been meaning to do this post for a while now.)

One of my future posts will be about vaccinations. And I often like comparing carseats to vaccinations. It never ceases to amaze me that people think I'm crazy for not vaccinating my child against Hepatitis at birth and then they turn around and put their "safe" (aka: vaccinated) kid into a car without being properly restrained. I love how people think of their cars as an extension of their living room that magically takes them places without the chance of any harm. Or they think putting their kid in just any carseat will do....after all, carseats are magic bubbles that keep kids safe no matter what, right?

The truth is, 4 out of 5 carseats are installed or used incorrectly. Luckily, they do still manage to save lives, even improperly used. AND YET-- CAR ACCIDENTS ARE STILL THE #1 KILLER OF CHILDREN UNDER THE AGE OF 14! What this means is that your child is more likely to die in a car accident than any other cause of death!
And still, some people are more worried about their child getting Hepatitis. Amazing.

I discussed the issue of extended rear-facing in a previous post. If anybody has any questions, feel free to ask. I do want to mention, though, that carseat companies are starting to get the clue. Sunshine Kids just came out with a new version of their carseat (the Radian XTSL) that can rear-face a child to 45 lbs (or until they outgrow it by height....whichever comes first)! I LOVE IT! (I know it's expensive, but it should go down in price over the next few months. Also, you can find coupons online.)

In this post we'll talk about extended harnessing and proper booster-use, since they kind of go hand-in-hand. It used to be that you could only find harnessed carseats that went up to 40 lbs. And then the next step was a booster. I found out about this when AJ hit 40 lbs. She was just under 4 years old and I couldn't stand the thought of putting her in a booster yet. She just didn't seem big enough to me. So that's when I started to do some researching and found 2 companies that made carseats with higher weight limits. Since then, most other carseat companies have gotten on-board with extended harnessing and started making seats with higher weight limits. It's great!

I want to mention really quickly about how harnessed carseats are outgrown. When a child is forward-facing, the carseat is outgrown when:
a) the child reaches the maximum weight limit
b)the child's shoulders are above the top harness slot (except on one particular carseat which allows the shoulders to go 1 inch above the top harness slot before being outgrown (the Radian))
c) the tops of the child's ears are level with the top of the seat

There are still a lot of carseats available right now that will be outgrown too early. With 40 lb. weight limit seats, most of the time the child outgrows it by weight first. With over 40 lb weigh limit seats, the child usually outgrows it by height before hitting the weight limit and they last much longer than 40-lb seats. There are a few seats that go up to 50 lbs. These may be a good option for you if your children are quite skinny. There are a number of others that go up to 65 lbs. These are great for average-size children. And there are a few that go up to 80 lbs. These are great for huskier children.

After learning about extended harnessing, I was able to keep AJ harnessed until she was almost 8. Unfortunately I had to also move Roo to a booster shortly after that, so he only made it to 6 1/2 in a harness.

There are a number of reasons why extended harnessing is safer. Most 4-5 year olds can't sit correctly in a booster seat for an entire car ride. In order for the seatbelt to do its job, the child needs to be sitting straight with their back against the booster the whole time. But for a lot of kids it's just too tempting to move out of place and fidget and squirm.

Also, it can be downright dangerous to put a small child in a booster. The booster isn't designed for a small child (even if the minimum weight limit on the booster says it is). What happens in an accident is the lap belt is pulled against their bellies and they can have terrible internal damage from that. They can "submarine" under the lapbelt and get terribly hurt that way. Here's a video about a little girl whose parents didn't know any better, but wish they would have.

So if you have a child who's outgrowing their 40-lb weight limit seat, consider getting another harnessed seat with a higher weight limit. There are some really good choices out there now, and there are a few that can be used as a booster once the child has outgrown the harness. (Note: I'm NOT talking about these or these carseats. Those are HORRIBLE in terms of booster-fit on children and usually have a 40 lb weight limit anyway. I'm talking about this one and this one.)

Before you put your child in a booster, read this and watch the videos linked in the thread.

When you decide your child is ready for a booster, please try to make sure the belts fit properly. Watch this for some guidelines.

The new guidelines for booster seats are that children need to be in a booster seat until age 12 or until they reach 4 ft 9 inches in height. But there's a better, more accurate way to know if your child is ready to be in a regular seatbelt. It's the 5-step test. (The only thing I disagree with in that link is that 4 year olds should be in boosters. It's rare that a 4 year old is big enough AND mature enough to be in a booster.) Keep in mind that your child may fit well in one car, but not in another. You may need to continue using a booster in one car and not another, depending on the fit of the seatbelt.

AJ will remain in a high-back booster until she outgrows them and then will be in a no-back booster until she's able to pass the 5-step test (as will the rest of my children). I prefer high-back boosters over no-back boosters because they:
1) provide more support for a wiggly child who might slip out of the belt in a no-back booster.
2) provide more support for sleeping children on long trips
3) provide much better side impact protection (Watch this. Now imagine that crash in a no-back booster.)
4) provide whiplash protection in vehicles with no headrests or built-in (low) headrests.

And one more video to show why booster seats are so important (even for "big" kids).

And one more to show why lap-only belts are dangerous. (Luckily most vehicles being made today have lap/shoulder belts in all positions. But if you have a lap-only belt in your car, consider installing a carseat there so that children/adults don't have to use it. (A harnessed carseat installed w/a lap-only belt is safe as long as it is a rear-facing carseat or if it is a forward-facing carseat used with a tether.))

And as always, I recommend getting your carseat installations checked by a Child Passenger Safety Technician (CPST) in your area. I can help you find one, or you can find one on this website.

Different

I know I haven't posted in a while. Life has gotten fairly busy and when it gets busy, the "extra" stuff gets dropped first. And unfortunately, this blog falls under that category. But just because I haven't updated, it doesn't mean I haven't thought about what new posts I want to write. I have a ton of them swirling around in my brain.

For the next little while, though, I've decided to write about all the things that make us (Brent and me) "different" and why we have chosen these things in our life. Some of the topics are fairly controversial and so I would suggest that if you are one to get riled up easily or feel upset when someone has an opposing view on things, you may want to skip over those posts.


A few months ago, in a conversation with my brother about homeschooling and being vegetarian, he suggested that --from the outside-- it looked as though Brent and I just automatically disregard anything mainstream and choose the alternative paths. (I think the term "hippie" was used more than once.) I appreciated that he felt comfortable enough to tell us this and I have pondered about it often since then. After explaining to him our thought processes, and time spent researching, studying, and often praying, why we'd come to the decisions we have, he was better able to understand us and respect our decisions. He still disagrees with us on a lot of the topics, but he's at least able to understand our point of view.

This is my goal with the next few posts. A lot of people in our lives tend to disregard what we have to say because, well, we're "Brent and Ann." (aka: "weird" or "hippies") We see the eye-rolling and ears-shutting-off whenever one of these topics is brought up. And we're fine with that. We know that we sometimes approach these conversations in the wrong way. When Brent and I feel strongly about something, you definitely know it when we talk about it. We can get "intense." It's one of our weaknesses. (And unfortunately it's a weakness we both share.) So in bringing these things up on a blog, the hope is that it takes the "personal" aspect out of things, and just *maybe* there's someone out there who can learn something from what we've learned. And if not, then at the very least, maybe there will be some who have a better understanding of us, and hopefully a little more respect for our decisions, knowing we haven't just made them willy-nilly.

A few years ago, I was about 1 year shy of getting my bachelor degree when we up and moved to Michigan. I haven't been able to go back to school since. I still plan on finishing at some point, but in the meantime, I've focused my education efforts on all things "mother." I've always loved to learn. And I didn't want to stop learning when I stopped going to school. So about a year after we moved to Michigan, I made the decision to start researching and learning about different topics that fall under my jurisdiction of "decisions to be made as a mother."

It really all came about after my disenchantment with the medical community as a whole after Roo's birth and the subsequent agonizing months dealing with his reflux (and no doctors believing me that there was even a problem). I came to the realization that my children were sent to ME for a reason. *I* am their mother. And *I* know my children better than anyone else, including doctors and other professionals. I began to take my role as a mother a lot more seriously than before. I began to question things that before, were just a given "because the doctor (or insert any other professional here) said it was best." I began to see that what may be best for some is NOT best for all. And I began to question a lot of the decisions I had previously made and was going to make in the future.

So in the posts to follow I will share what I (and subsequently, Brent) have learned from my (our) studies and experiences. And hopefully I can do it in a way so that we won't lose too many friends along the way. :)